They call you up and you're on the phone for an hour and you mostly end up being the "listener" and by the time you're finished your conversation, you are exausted and drained or maybe even irritable?!
Those people are are what I call " Energy Suckers." Nothing seems to satisfy them, there's no answer and most important, they're not interested in what you have to say anyway!!
A good friend of mine sent me an article which had a quote which struck a chord with me.
"Don’t confuse “authenticity” with sharing every complaint, resentment, or petty reaction in the name of “being yourself.”
Meditate, write, or do yoga to work through anxiety, resentment, and stress on your own so you don’t hand off those negative moods to everyone around you. Sure, share sadness, honest dilemmas, and fears, but be mindful: don’t pollute.
How can we counteract the Energy Pollution?
Set Boundaries politely. Not arrogantly. Arrogance is another form of pollution in my opinion.
When I am confronted with people who tend to be the "forever wounded puppy" I try things like changing the subject.
If that doesn't work, I (as politely as I can) let them know that I'd rather talk about something else. If that doesn't work, create some distance. Hey - No one said you had to be at everyone's beck and call 24/7!
This is not easy sometimes - I've had to gradually work at it.
The slower you respond though, they'll eventually get the message. You will begin to feel "lighter" and your head will become clearer!
Realisticly speaking we have all been on the giving and recieving end at some point but, perhaps this is just a little food for thought?
Hope you're having an awesome Summer so far!